Hello, Jhana’s supporters! It’s your disability advocate and writer, Jhana. I hope you’re all doing well. I’m sorry for not posting an article last week. I’m still trying my hardest to work on my blog posts once a week. I plan on writing on Saturdays to have my articles ready for my editor during the week. Then, I can publish them on Thursdays.
I had a challenging class last month but passed with a D+. Now, I’ve started a new class that will hopefully be much better.
I also want to let you all know that I am revising my “Jhana’s Writing Journey” website. I will add new things and revise other stuff to make it better and more accessible. So, please stay tuned. Now, let’s get into today’s blog!
I’ve talked about so many things, from disability inclusion to why you should always stay true to who you are regardless of your disability. I’ve also talked about being in a relationship with a disability, but I have never discussed jealousy in a relationship when you have a disability.
Understanding the Roots of Jealousy in the Context of Disability
In my experience, jealousy usually happens when the partner with a disability is jealous of the partner without one. Jealousy occurs when you lack confidence and compassion. Jealousy can stem from various things, but it’s often a result of the differences between what the partner without a disability can do compared to the partner with one. Still, it’s important to remember that jealousy is a natural human emotion. It can happen whether a person has a disability or not, but the way you handle it is up to you.
It’s a common misconception that only people with disabilities experience jealousy in relationships. But it is essential to understand that everyone deals with jealousy, no matter their health status. It doesn’t matter if you have a disability or not — you should find a way to deal with these feelings. Personally, I found that having a more mature and constructive response to jealousy is helpful. For example, when someone made a comment about Rob cheating on me, I retorted back, “Are you cheating on me with my evil twin Jessica?” In this case, making a joke about the situation might boost your confidence.
Building Self-Compassion and Acceptance
Self-compassion means treating yourself with kindness and understanding, even through difficult times. It may be hard not to compare yourself to others when you have a disability. Individuals with disabilities may struggle with stigma or personal limitations. That’s why practicing self-compassion helps with accepting their disability in a relationship.
Acceptance allows you to see through a situation without judgment, easing the burden of jealousy. Finding uniqueness in your journey takes time, but it can significantly strengthen your sense of peace and commitment.
Creating a Supportive Community: Surrounding Yourself with Positivity
A support system helps you feel confident with your disability, improving your romantic relationship. So, make sure to surround yourself with positive people who provide encouragement. That’s another excellent way to reduce jealousy. Additionally, understanding friends and family members help boost your confidence. Since they understand your challenges, they can provide you with a nurturing environment. And that’s incredibly important.
It might also be a good idea to try support groups, both online and in person. These can help you build confidence and learn ways to manage your jealousy. After all, talking to someone who knows how you feel is a great way to cope with feelings and emotions. Sharing your experiences with others can help ease your jealousy and equip you with helpful coping techniques.
Practicing Gratitude: Shifting Focus from Lack to Abundance
Remember when I said I made a joke about Rob cheating on me? Well, joking like that helps me cope with jealousy — and it may help you, too.
Another thing you can do is focus on what you have and not what you don’t have. It’s vital to try and shift your perspective from jealousy to acceptance and appreciation. To help with this, you can keep a gratitude journal or reflect on positive aspects of life. That can significantly boost your mental well-being.
This practice can change your mindset and help you focus more on personal achievements and joy, whether big or small.
Utilizing Mindfulness Techniques to Manage Emotional Responses
You may want to consider meditation and deep breathing. Personally, I don’t do that anymore, but these techniques can be very beneficial. Now, I use my feelings as I write books and articles. I put all my personal feelings into my characters and the storylines. To be honest, it sometimes helps, and it sometimes doesn’t. But it doesn’t mean I will stop writing about my feelings and emotions. It’s important to let your feelings out in a healthy way, so I will continue to do so.
Lastly, having an optimistic mindset makes you learn and grow as a person. It also helps you build a stronger, healthier relationship and makes processing jealousy easier. Plus, it may help you have a better outlook on life.
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